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So we're gonna start with the most
Common “waiting for clarity” these people
Need to feel their feelings and all of
You who are emotional as a definition
That is the key. Feel your feelings don't
Be afraid to feel your feelings. But what
Happens when you have an adult in your
Life who is not emotional they don't
Feel comfortable with your feelings they
Suppress you if they drug you they make
You bad and wrong for being up and down
This is a real-life experience that I've
Seen countless times for emotional
People who have up and downs and then
Until it gets you can't it's like a
Pressure cooker you can't pressurize
Yourself for so long it explodes at some
Point yeah you get angry you explode
Something happens that it doesn't feel
Good and then you're really embarrassed
And then you try to put the lid on even
Tighter next time okay so if you feel an
Exaggerated urgency or pressure to act
When you are emotional and you're
Nervous and you're not sure and you just
Gotta get rid of this pressure let me do it
That's not your authority when you're
Really really happy or really really sad
That's not the time to make a choice
It's usually coming from the mind not
From clarity when you feel anxious and
Nervous and uncomfortable and your mind
Is going into all these hypotheses and
Telling you don't wait you can't afford
To wait because the operative term here
Is patience is its own reward patience
Gives you clarity you never ever ever
Make a choice when you're dysregulated
Crying upset never you you cancel that
Engagement whatever it is get get okay
With you if you have an important
Meeting and you're all over the map
That's a sign your body does not want to
Go into that meeting and then people go
Well I have to I promised I must I
Should know cuz you might have an
Important meeting and you just had
People die or whatever it happens to be
And you need some time time is what is
Really healing and time is what is
Needed for people when their
Dysregulated to off-gas the emotions
However or to express to feel whatever
Those emotions need to do that's not the
Time for important decision-making hi is
Worse than low because when you're high
Happy happy everything's great
You're gonna make a yes choice that
You're going to regret later
Because you didn't see all the downs the
Downs give us important information
About the big picture wait for pressure
To subside wait to be able to feel when
The timings right
This means no nervousness you are
Jittery you are anxious you are nervous
You can't swallow coz a lump in your
Throat wait wait make excuses healthy
Excuses you know let me get back to you
Let me sleep on it can I have some time
To process this this is a lot to take in
Right now I need some time yeah can I
Get back to you when do I need to get
Back to you when do you need to know bye
Push it off the further you push off a
Decision the healthier it is for you if
You are nervous so once you've been
Recognized and invited as an advisor
Never make the choice point on happy
Happy happy or low make it somewhere in the middle
Where you've already been up and down on
That particular experience sleep on it
At least sleep on it because you wake up
In a totally different mood than you
Were when you were down when you are
Going to sleep so give yourself the time
Don't get tossed around by the waves of
Emotion because it's like the difference
Between you and having rose-colored
Glasses on when you're happy and really
Foggy thick glasses of not being able to
See blinders it's like having blinders
On when you're sad cuz you're only
Attuned to what is going on in front of
You that resonates to how you feel
Remember we're all resonant creatures
We're vibrating on a frequency when
You're happy you can't remember the last
Time you were so devastated felt like
Life was falling apart
Not really you don't have access to that
Energy so wait for calm confidence
Clarity not excitement you know that
Common what is it law of attraction
Thing follow your highest excitement
That's not true for emotional people not
Spontaneously okay I hope I make that
Clear so we cannot make choices up here
Or down here I have left relationships
Down here and regretted it for the rest
Of my life don't make my mistake wait
Out your wave make decisions from calm
And clarity because what happens is we
Have emotions that go up and down there
Is a choice point somebody asks and then
You have to wait for time because time
Gives you perspective okay time gives
You perspective on whether or not to
Support your tribe with this bargain or
That whether or not to empower or to be
Social to be with that other person
Because or do that thing because you're
Passionate about it because you love it
Like nothing else in this universe when
Time gives you the availability to know
Whether you should share your emotions
With others or
Actually engage in that experience with
Them time is the only truth with
Emotionally intelligent people. Time is
Your friend
Your mind is not.”
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